I am neither misogynist nor anti-feminist, and not even a Men’s Rights Activist (MRA). Many of my friends working for these organisations feel I should be one like them in a formal way, but being on a different route, I prefer not to identify with any organization, be they ones from spiritual or political background. So it would be useless to measure the worth of author’s views as someone acting as mouthpiece of any organization. Let’s not forget that to come up with entirely different set of facts, a different version of reality not in tune with set patterns, is not bizarre. On the contrary, it’s the result of having viewed the world from close angles! An open mind would certainly realize it. To follow a different route does not make anyone regressive, biased, much less a Talibani with a capacity to issue a fatwa! Ridiculous assertion!
Why should every analyst of our times present a syrupy version of happenings taking place in world of present times women, wherein “every bad thing any man has ever committed highlighted and exaggerated; every bit of good systematically undermined, vilified or ignored”? It’s only that I feel inclined to represent the cause of men, not out sense of any “same gender” feeling but only from justice point of view, which demands that other side should also be heard well. It’s the other side of the fence that I am presenting with total sincerity, different perspective and neutral stance !
कुछ नहीं दिखता था अंधेरे में मगर, आंखें तो थीं,
ये कैसी रोशनी आई कि सब अंधे हो गए।।
(Though we cannot see in dark with our eyes,
It’s strange that we cannot see even as there is light around us)….
Feminism, as a movement, was started in late nineteenth century to demand female rights in society. “At the end of the nineteenth century was that women began to realize that it is unfair for them to be constantly under the power of men simply because the social system has traditionally favored males.” At this point, it’s inappropriate to discuss the impact of this movement in West, but this movement seems to have lost its impact there in modern times. May be because women have gained enough rights there but, in my eyes, it’s because both have realized well that battle of the sexes serves no purpose other than breeding animosity. “To know the road ahead, ask those coming back”.
The Indian women, who have misplaced beliefs that having all the rights ensures better days should, at least, have the guts to critically analyze the impact of such divisive and lethal movement in Western societies. Anyway, it’s better that I confine myself to Indian landscape. It’s better to understand the essential elements of Indian society, viewing it not through the myopic terms coined by the so-called progressive elements, but in a conscious way to tear apart the great game of gender equality. It’s interesting that many arguments have been forwarded to show the worth of female mind. Many love to cite the growing academic excellence of Indian women as one of the parameters to upheld the intellectual superiority of women. However, wisdom and real understanding have nothing to do with academic excellence. Many of the great contributors, in fact, nearly all creative geniuses, were very poor in academic terms plus they were never part of institutionalized structures. I say that not to lessen the importance of academic excellence but to highlight the worth of education offered in Indian schools and universities, which are killing all the good elements which a child possesses.
The Indian society might have so-called patriarchal model but it’s a sheer diabolical myth that it was framed to suppress the position of women, much less, exploit the women. The Indian society has always been women-centered society. The concept like “”Ardhanareeswara”, aimed at equality of women, which ensured that Shiva without female principle “Shakti” means nothing, always made Indian women enjoy dignified position in Indian society. Even in modern Indian Hindu families, having a balanced and sensible approach, the women always gain upper hand in all issues. All important issues have her consent, wherein her views gain as much importance than any male member. Have a look at the marriage vows. They in clear terms ensure that women come to enjoy an equal ground.
Gribhnami te saubhagatvaya hastam mayapatya jardastirayathasah|
Bhagoaryyamma savita purandhiramahyam tvadurgaharpatya devah||
That is – “Oh dear! On this auspicious occasion of our life, I take your hand in mine in the presence of invoked deities. Oh blessed woman! You be with me as a fortunate partner for a very long time. I hand over the control of my family in your hands, discharge your duties joyously.”
It’s a fallacious assertion that men enjoyed privileges in past while the women remained an oppressed lot. “Society is largely constructed for the benefit of women and children and always has been, otherwise it doesn’t survive. …It takes a gigantic lack of imagination (usually the sole province of baby feminists) to believe that women wanted the economic and political involvement they claim now when the demands and risks of these endeavours were as they were then (ancient times)”. The Indian society is also no exception. It’s always portrayed as if women in the past were some sort of domestic slaves, devoid of any sort of right to decide by themselves. Well, such a claim can only be made by people who have not bothered to know Indian society in its entirety. Even the most ancient ladies in Indian history had the right to chose their husbands via a ceremony called Swyamvara. The women were well versed in scriptural knowledge and many among them were qualified scholars.
True, with advent of time many of the glorious traditions (the great spirit which led to their origin) faded away to give way to their corrupt versions. It would not be out of place to mention that practice like dowry was basically the Streedhan to ensure that a woman is “not left wanting anything after the wedding”. The impression of men being unconcerned about the rights of women is quite powerfully projected but lesser known aspect is that men have played an instrumental role in any movement aimed at improvement of women. The greatest example in this category is abolition of Sati Pratha and banning of child marriages. Anyway, the division in labour in Indian society was done by the sages, who played an impartial role while framing laws related with basic structure of Indian society. It favoured none.
Had Indian society been truly patriarchal in nature, as suggested by new age scholars, it would have never led to emergence of bold Indian women who always played equal role in Indian society. Be they queens of ancient era, or the women freedom fighters of pre-Independence era, the Indian women played a significant role. It would not have been possible had women been denied the right to make choices. The modern Indian society is facing new set of complexities but the solution is not devaluation of ancient practices. The empowerment of Indian women does not mean women be entitled to make arbitrary choices on the grounds that men also did the same! In fact, it presupposes that men enjoyed unlimited freedom of all sorts. It’s totally false and erroneous notion. Their choices were also determined by the prescribed rules, keeping in mind the interests of women and children. Let’s be clear that the empowerment of women does not mean to give way to propaganda that “women alone have sufferings and women alone have problems in life”.
At present, the situation has become pretty confusing and dangerous for the growth of Indian society. The men are being repeatedly portrayed as abusers, leading to anti-family and anti-marriage laws. Indeed, there are problems related with Indian women but then effective measures in form of stringent laws are already there to take note of them. There are many institutions to take care of plight of women, whose recommendations have led to new rules, fresh amendments and etc. in form of Domestic Violence Act, Dowry Act and Maintenance Act, to name a few. In Vishaka v. State of Rajasthan, the Supreme Court of India in 1997 laid down the guidelines to ensure that sexual harassment at the workplace does not take place, which resulted in framing of the “The Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Bill, 2012″. The problems pertaining to women are being systematically dealt with, and much of the problems have not arisen out of lack of concern for the cause of women in Indian society, but because of lack of effective implementation. So it’s really shrewd to suggest that patriarchal society favours men!
Let’s understand that in name of personal freedom and personal choices one cannot give way to lifestyle which ensures conflicts and dilemmas of disturbing nature. A choice has to be in league with prevalent norms and customs. Or else, women need to effectively satisfy that their choices would not lead to turbulent state of affairs. There is nothing like absolute freedom. She has to convince what would be the state of affairs in such a society, which allows women unrestricted freedom in name of personal choices? That’s because, if there comes no plausible explanation, and still we went in for such a society, it would be hard to wipe out the new set of complexities. That’s the case in other parts of the hemisphere. To see the resistance offered by men, or by the people belonging to old order of living patterns as an attempt to hold back the privileges enjoyed in the patriarchal set-up is not the right interpretation. It’s also not fear to lose the power or monopoly. On the contrary, it’s an attempt to prevent the citadels of society from crumbling down.
It’s simply not issue of having choices/making choices in free manner; it’s more about long term consequences of having choices, which indicate the high probability of single women, pills, abortions, extra-marital relations, same-sex relations, stress-related burdens, broken families, deviant kids and etc.? What about the dangerous interference in the evolutionary process, wherein for ages men played the role of protector and women the role of nurturing the kids? With this kind of perverted “role reversal”, are’t we on the wrong track? One of my friends, during gender related conversation, referring to Sunita Williams ( as if only after that Indian women learnt the art to make exceptional choices) stated that she did not have kids for the sake of work! It would be suffice to say that if all women made such a choice, it would not be hard to imagine the fate of evolution of human species! However, this is classic example of selective approach, wherein a woman seeks benefits of traditional society when she feels trapped by her weaknesses but she is absolutely modern when it comes to making choices and rights. That’s paradox at its best since.
After all, it involves taming of the men species to ensure that inequality gets reduced! That has begun in a cruel fashion. Men are now supposed to do something which is never their strength, and a retaliatory gesture on their part is enough to get them the tag of being an abuser and an oppressor! Who will bear the consequences of ”placing men and women in a conflicting role and creating confusion in values”? But that’s still not as ominous as an attempt to create a society which denies even the right to protest on part of men. ”Under cover of the notion of chivalry, as understood by Modern Feminism, Political and Sentimental Feminists alike would deprive men of the most elementary rights of self-defence against women and would exonerate the latter practically from all punishment for the most dastardly crimes against men. They know they can rely upon the support of the sentimental section of public opinion with some such parrot cry of: “Treat a woman in this way!”/ “What! Hit a woman!”.
It’s interesting that women learnt to move out of their houses, refusing to remain confined to prison like state of affairs within the home, and began to notice that world outside is a different affair altogether. It missed the “having all the pleasure factor” which they had assumed prevailed in men’s life as they began to venture outside. The world would remain a hell’s replica and it would not going to change whether women remains inside the home or moves outside, fulfilling their aspirations and dreams in fullest manner. However, having said that, let’s make the world safer and better for the women community. Nobody said that problems pertaining to women’s life, be they of any type, sexual assault, low wages, discrimination, should be ignored.
What I wish to suggest is that while dealing with women’s issues, the gender politics should not get mixed with the reforms. An attempt to distort the intimate relationship with men and women should not become the prime motive in guise of welfare. Sadly, that’s how one feels while analyzing the current state of affairs, wherein right from biological facts, psychological facts and legal truths, all are being selectively quoted, or quoted in perverted manner to suit the vested interests acting as agents of change in world of women.
That’s why all conscious souls, interested in right developments, should become alert when “there is no distinction between potential and probability. An allegation suffices for proof. Hearsay is taken for gospel.” (Charles E. Corry). Rohan, Men’s Rights activist, Bangalore, conveys the same sentiments in a different way: ” Women have the right to be seated when in a bus or in a train. They have the right to 50% reservation in govt. jobs and academics. They have the right to claim alimony and maintenance, even in a live-in relationship. They have only rights and men only have duties. This is called equality, according to feminazis.”
Precisely, it’s for the very same reason it has become need of the hour to present the happenings taking place in world of men in an aggressive and conscious manner. The happier side of the movements aimed to improve the life of women has been “demolition of the idea that women are inherently nice”. The thing that’s now taking place is that discrimination and abuse stories related with women are being presented both in right and wrong way, with help of paid media. Facts, right and wrong, are flowing thick and past to show that how women have been underprivileged and suppressed lot. No one is bothered to check either the authenticity of facts nor the source, forget about probing them from wide angles.
Anyway, since all this is happening in the name of ensuring a better world for women, I am but compelled to endorse them. But with a condition and appeal: Let’s also reveal the true picture of the sufferings, pains, humiliation, torture faced by men side-by-side the stories which talk about sufferings of women, with the same honesty and intensity! That alone will bring the true story, true picture. At present, we are witnessing with abuse stories related with women only. That’s unfair to hear/see only one side in any story and jump to flawed conclusions applicable to totality.
Why such a wish irks those concerned with rights of women? Will society be a better place only if you enable the women to have all the rights? Why shouldn’t the rights of men be discussed in the same breath? Why should not adequate attention be paid to silent sufferings of men? It leaves me aghast that tragedies, stories of discrimination associated with men, their precarious state of affairs being involved in hazardous and tough activities and regular interaction with dilemmas and ironies of peculiar type are being talked about in matter-of-fact tones. Worse, any attempt to bring the truth get checkmated by giving the impression that since men are about to lose the power, lose the privileges, these are reactionary backlash. That’s an absurd and fleeting observation. The right interpretation is that men have now begun to get organized to make “gender equality” attain a right shape, a right balance, a right proportion. And this would never stop.
P.S.: Many thanks to my friend, Rohan, whose views I have borrowed from the conversation we had on Instablogs on one of my posts having the same theme. He is Men’s Rights Activist hailing from Bangalore.
Society Always Tilted Towards Women
The women community seeking “equality of gender”, should either accept this concept in entirety, or else, follow desirable norms. The point is why so much insistence on rights for behaving as you want, for doing whatever you want? Why not give way to responsibilities shared, supposedly always considered as role of men since time immemorial! That includes all menial jobs requiring intense labour in tough conditions. That also means serving the men community, inside homes, for ages. The men community did that for ages, supplying money like ATM machine, despite suffering severely at hands of cruel wives. That too silently! These employed, high salaried women, should also marry unemployed youths and offer them all comforts for many centuries without feeling the pinch just the way men community did that in past! I am just trying to convey that this drama of gender equality gained momentum in wake of the world becoming a sophisticated place to live, largely shaped by men and women in the same patriarchal mode, which the bunch of derailed feminists saw as an obstacle for the emancipation of woman.
I am not interested in narrating the consequences of feminism in other parts of the world, but in Indian context, it has given rise to new set of complexities. There was already healthy division of labour but with the rise of feminism, or call it curse of modernism, the world inside home got projected as insult to the capabilities of women. The traditional roles were projected as subservient. However, as the modern women, shattering so-called shackles, stepped out of the confines of home, they realized that world is not bed of roses, or on par with their expectations, largely because of limitations caused by their physicality. So another set of calculated efforts came into action, to make the outside world seem a safer domain. And for that very reason, males were advised to co-operate inside homes, doing household work, after all, that’s what true equality demands! That also meant loving ”fathers, brothers, sons” all be presented as “potential rapists” so that a false alarm can be raised, and thus, International bodies can come to dictate us, calling it a nation, which does not respects and honours women! The problems pertaining to women were highlighted in exaggerated way so as to ensure that hocus-pocus, called feminism, can make its presence felt in India.
It’s not that the problems related to woman community do not exist but a shrewd attempt to use them to create rift between the relationship, using the same bothering issues, is simply an attempt to hit hard at the cherished institutions called family and marriage. One never said that problems related with women be it female foeticide, rising sexual crimes, health concerns, low literacy level and etc. should never be dealt with in a conscious way. However, why should one not be alarmed when these very issues became a part of the plot to destabilize Indian society? It’s amazing that lesbians, drunk female girls, prostitutes not by condition but by choice, females involved in all sorts of complex relationship should be hailed as appropriate but the same women living inside the confines of home as an ideal wife is seen as insult to womanhood! I mean what sort of values are being professed in name of equality? What’s being achieved? It leaves one in deep pain that even the most heinous crimes “rapes” are also being used as tool to ensure that gender imbalance sharpens in name of equality.
This sort of heightened false consciousness in Indian women is a necessity because the governments in future would largely be shaped by minorities and women, and so it’s necessary to appease them, to keep them ignorant about real implications of chasing imported theories related with equality. At global level, this sort of destabilized society, wherein men and women, are living highly individualistic lives, caters well to the needs of consumerist society. So why would corporate demons make women aware of consequences of aping such wayward lifestyle, which is resulting in single women, divorced couples, broken homes, fatherless children, eventually leading to rise in crime level too? It’s safer for them that women come out of their homes, work for them, leading to greater productivity.
On the other hand, political class is all prepared to use them as a tool to make their political dreams come alive with their help. Only to attain such diabolical interests, the concept called feminism-the great game of gender equality-came in effect. It’s a myth that it got introduced to make their lives better. At least, in India, it’s not the case. Indeed, women have a set of their own problems, but to remove them, was it necessary to fall in the trap of complex notions of feminism, having goals which even Western world has failed to exhibit in totality or demonstrate with perfection? However, the problem starts when New Delhi starts living the pattern of life found in New York and Washington. That’s why borrowed concepts become a necessity. That’s why “equality” also becomes a necessity. That’s why a highly reputed media publication is bound to see “Sunny Leone” as woman of exceptional talent and merit. And that’s why it’s necessary to give rise to conflicts wherein woman is equal when it comes to enjoy benefits of modern society but woman feels no longer equal when threat is directly to her body. At that point, she is woman! Be equal to enjoy benefit, but be a woman in helpless positions!
Bringing qualitative differences in lives of woman is quite a different issue than using these very issues to demonize men, or, in fact, use the same issues to shatter the citadels of society. The positive side of this gender equality is that it has allowed men to reshape their own priorities. It has given them a huge chance to realize their own worth and get united to fight for the cause of men in a spirited way-something never done until now. This gender equality is a great phenomenon. At least, now everything related with woman shall be put on trial and it’s a great chance to shatter all stereotyped notions with them. They are no holy cows, and they are as shrewd and manipulative as men needs to be ably projected. It’s a myth that they are a weaker sex and that they were the harassed lot in past. They have always enjoyed deep respect, care, both in external world and within the four walls of home. However, it’s ironical, and diabolical too, that instead of highlighting this aspect, all the men got clubbed in one category of abusers of women. So it’s time to tell that who actually has been abusing-man or woman? The men community should discuss their own issues in a more organized way-their concerns, their dilemmas, their worries, their pain and their sufferings etc. should get highlighted in a better way. It’s for them to decide that they have to live like a male or as a female in a male body. That’s the real agenda of feminism- to curb the instincts of men to make them in tune with absurd concerns of women.
Lastly, there is nothing like gender equality. There are honorable differences and these differences should persist for the growth of society in a better way. Radha, Seeta, Draupadi, Savitri and other such great women were the by-product of same patriarchal society. Even in modern times, the same society has produced women for whom their fathers have been the role model. Let’s not topple such a society or else the future will be more darker than one would have imagined. Agreed that women have suffered discrimination and face problems. But are the lives of men devoid of problems? Aren’t they facing host of complex problems? Some times back in Kargil War, the Indian soldiers were killed in barbaric manner. Their genitals were cut. That was simply treated as war crime. The same done with woman would not have not only been treated as a war crime but also as sexual assault, rape. Now there lies the difference. That’s the paradox. One wishing true gender equality should treat both bodies as mere bodies! If that’s not possible then stop this nonsense about gender equality. At present, there is a difference and no difference in the name of equality. Difference when you can’t face the heat and no difference in sophisticated scenario. That’s not equality. That’s opportunism. That’s selfishness. That’s shrewdness of highest type.
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दिल्ली में हादसे के बाद अचानक से दुष्कर्म सम्बन्धी कानून को सख्त कर देने की जरूरत पड़ने लगी है। फ़ास्ट ट्रैक कोर्ट स्थापित किये जा रहे है। उम्मीद है इन कदमो से शायद इस तरह के हादसों में कमी आ जाए। ये हमारे यहाँ कि बिडम्बना है कि हर सुधार के लिए हम न्यायालय का मुंह ताकते है। अपनी जिम्मेदारी का कुछ भी भान नहीं रहता और ना ही हम किसी मुद्दे के तह में जाकर गंभीर विश्लेषण कर के कोई कदम उठाते है। सिर्फ सरसरी आकलन के बाद कुछ तुरंत ही कदम उठा लिए जाते है। जैसा कि इस वीभत्स हादसे के बाद हुआ। लेकिन मुझे नहीं लगता कि जहा बात मानसिकता के परिवर्तन की हो वहा कानून बना देने से कोई विशेष फर्क पड़ेगा। खासकर उस देश में जहा पे न्याय या तो किताबो में सिमट के रह गया है या उनके हिसाब से होता है जिनके पास पैसा और पावर दोनों हो। फिर कानून की पेचदगी से उपजने वाली समस्या तो खैर अपनी जगह है ही।
बेहतर तो ये होता कि कानून को सख्त करने के ही साथ इस बात पर भी विचार किया जाता कि ये समस्या उपजी ही क्यों। लेकिन मुद्दा “हैंग द रेपिस्ट्स ” या महिलाओ की बेहतर सुरक्षा तक ही जा अटका। मतलब कि अगर पुरुष का सर कोई काट कर फ़ेंक दे तो वो सहज है, गंभीर मुद्दा नहीं है, मगर स्त्री का सर काट कर फ़ेंक दे तो वो गंभीर मुद्दा है और सुरक्षा तंत्र महिलाओ की बेहतर सुरक्षा कर पाने में नाकाम रहा है। जब तुरंत कदम उठाये जाते है तो बात सिर्फ सीमित दायरों में से ही उभर कर आती है। जैसा कि इस मामले में हुआ। चर्चा स्त्री अधिकारों से उभर कर, स्त्रियों की सुरक्षा तक ही सीमित रहा। ऐसा नहीं कि इन सीमित कदमों का लाभ नहीं होगा। होगा जरूर पर वो सीमित ही रहेगा।
खैर दुष्कर्म मेरी नज़रों में सेक्सुअलिटी की विकृत समझ से ज्यादा उपजा है बजाय नारीवाद की इस समझ से कि ये पुरुष की अधिकार भावना मतलब पावर का विकृत स्वरूप है। क्योकि सत्ता का विकृत स्वरुप हर जगह मौजूद है और यहाँ भी है। इसको विशेष चश्मे से देखने की जरूरत नहीं। जुर्म जब कभी होता है तो जेंडर देख कर नहीं होता। जुर्म को जुर्म की परिभाषाओ के दायरे में ही समझना चाहिए। ये सीधी सी बात प्रायोजित फेमिनिस्ट वर्ग समूह को समझ में नहीं आती। इसमें कोई पितृसत्तात्मक नाम का जिन्न ढूढने की जरूरत नहीं। दुष्कर्म एक विशेष प्रकार का जुर्म है जिसके तह में कोई साधरण कारण नहीं कि आपने कानून सख्त किया नहीं कि सब कुछ ठीक हो गया। जिस तरह के कदम उठायें जा रहे है वो बिल्कुल आधुनिक चिकित्सा पद्धति कि तरह है जिसमे तुरंत आराम तो मिल जाता है पर रोग जड़ से नहीं जाता है।
इस तरह के सेक्सुअल डिसऑर्डर्स को दूर करने के लिए हमे भारतीय समाज में व्याप्त ढोंग और विरोधाभासो को बहुत सूक्ष्म रूप से समझना पड़ेगा। सिर्फ बात बात पे कानून का चाबुक चला देने से बात नहीं बनेगी। ये हमको समझना पड़ेगा कि प्राचीन काल का भारत समय के प्रवाह में बहते बहते उस मोड़ पे आ गया है कि जहा आधुनिक समाज में फैले तथाकथित नए तौर तरीके उसके सामने मुंह बाए खड़े है। क्या विकल्प है हमारे पास? इनको पकडे कि छोड़ कर आगे बढ़े? आज का आधुनिक भारत कुछ तो नीति निर्माताओं की गलती के कारण और युग के परिवर्तन चक्र के कारण द्वंद्ध का अखाड़ा बन गया है। ये जुर्म उसी द्वंद्ध से गुत्थम गुत्था का दुष्परिणाम है। वैसे भारतीय समाज हमेशा की तरह ऐसे वैचारिक द्वंद्ध को पचाकर आगे बढ़ जाएगा ऐसा मेरा यकीन है पर अभी तो द्वंद विकृत स्वरूप है। इस समय के भारत के दो स्वरूप है जहा एक ओर तो अधिकारों और मूलभूत जरूरतों से मरहूम लोगो की दुनिया है जहा प्रसव पीड़ा से ग्रसित स्त्री को कई मील चल कर डिलीवरी करनी पड़ती है, एक आदमी को जरा सा काम कराने के लिए कई लोगो के आगे विवश होना पड़ता है तो दूसरी ओर नयी जनरेशन के लोग है जिनको बस जल्दी से पढ़ कर या बिना पढ़े नोट कमाने की धुन है नयी कार और खूबसूरत बीवी के साए में। इनको एथिक्स से ज्यादा कुछ लेना नहीं क्योकि आँखों में इनके स्वार्थ की धुंध हमेशा छाई रहती है।
नीति निर्माता जो ये सख्त कानून बना कर दुष्कर्म रोक देने का ख्वाब देख रहे है ग्रामीण भाषा में कहे तो लंठनमति बुद्धि की परिचायक है। लंठनमति बुद्धि से अभिप्राय काठ के उल्लुओं से है। जब आपने ग्लोबल संस्कृति के लिए द्वार खोल दिया है तो सिर्फ उपभोग के सामान जिसमे शैम्पू से लेकर सेंट तक है तो सिर्फ सामान ही नहीं बल्कि एक ख़ास प्रकार के मूल्यों का भी प्रवाह होगा। आपने सामान तो खरीदा ही पर साथ में कुछ सूक्ष्म विकृत मूल्य भी आप लेकर चले आये जिसको तो आप ना अपना पा रहे है और ना ही तज पा रहे है। इसको आपने इग्नोर किया जिसका दुष्परिणाम आप आज देख रहे है।इसको स्त्री पुरुष के अधिकार संघर्ष के आइने में देखने के बजाय सेक्सुअल भावनाओ को सही दिशा देने का मामला है। लेकिन हो ठीक उल्टा रहा है। जहा पे पुरुष तो ट्रैक से भटके हुए ही थें स्त्री ने भी राह अपना ली जहा देह से परे उसके कुछ भी नहीं। जहा उसे अपने को सेक्स ऑब्जेक्ट में परवर्तित होता हुआ स्वरूप अपना एक मूलभूत अधिकार सरीखा बन गया है। सो इस देश में बच्चे से लेकर स्त्री तक सब ने अपने अधिकारों की अजीब सी परिभाषायें गढ़ ली है और सब उसे अपनी तरह से जस्टिफाय कर रहे है। और कुछ नहीं कर और समझ रहे है तो वो ये कि आपके अपने कर्त्तव्य क्या है या आपको कौन से बेहतर त्याग करने है समाज को बेहतर रूख देने के लिए। सब के सब अपने क्षुद्र सीमाओ में सीना फुला कर जी रहे है। अपने सीमित सफ़लताओ-असफलताओ को ढ़ोते तोपची बने फिर रहे है।
तो एक तरफ “लौंडिया मिस काल से पट रही है” और दूसरी तरफ़ अगर आप के पास ख़ास तरह का मोबाईल है तो वो आपकी मर्दानगी का सिम्बल है और इसके एवज में आप एक खूबसूरत स्त्री से छुट्टे पैसे के नहीं बल्कि कॉन्डोम के हकदार है। तो एक तरफ इस प्रकार का भारत है, इस तरह का समाज है जहा इस तरह के बोल्ड दृश्य विद्यमान है। एक तरफ वो संस्कृति है जिसमे बॉयफ्रेंड/गर्लफ्रेंड आम बात होते हुए भी ऑनर किल्लिंग्स होती है, चमकते घरो में भी भ्रूण हत्या होती है, हर तरह के अपकर्म होते है। लेकिन इसके परे एक भारत और भी है जहा आम स्त्री पुरुष, वास्तविक धरातल पर जीते हुए हर तरह का संघर्ष कर रहे है। इनके पास बनावटी अधिकार चेतना का विमर्श नहीं बल्कि इनके अपने साधारण से ख्वाब है, साधारण सी जद्दोजहद है। और तकलीफ की बात है इनके बारे में कोई बात नहीं करता। जबकि सारी सरकारी नीतियों का ये दुष्परिणाम ये चुपचाप झेलते है। ख़ास वर्ग से आती समस्यायों को भी यही वर्ग झेल रहा है चाहे वो किसी अमीरजादे की गाडी के नीचे आकर कुचल जाने का मामला हो, किसी के हवस का शिकार बन जाना हो, या जरूरी वस्तुओ के आसमान छूने के कारण आभाव में जीने का दुःख हो, ये सब एक बड़े माध्यम वर्ग- आम लोगो का निरीह समूह- की किस्मत बन गयी है। कडुवी सच्चाई यही है कि इनके बारे में कोई बात नहीं करता है पर इनका इस्तेमाल करके आगे जरूर बढ़ जाता है।
उम्मीद है इन पे भी विचार करके देश को सार्थक दिशा देने का प्रयास किया जाएगा। इनकी भी किस्मत संवारने का सार्थक प्रयास किया जाएगा ग्लोबल भारत में जहा हर प्रकार के जायज़-नाजायज़ अधिकारों के साथ बहुत से संघर्ष चल रहे है। इस अंतर्द्वंद में इस उपेक्षित वर्ग, आम पुरुषो।औरतो का समूह, की भी बात सुनी जायेगी जिनके बल पर देश टिका हुआ है।
This petition stated: “In a feminist ruled country(feminocracy) like India Justice Bhaktvatsala is a great judge who against all odds is battling the feminist hegemony in courts. He has taken on the misandrist media and feminist ideology and is delivering great judgment. His recent efforts on stopping the misuse of the dreaded section 498a which has led to millions of husbands committing suicide is truly remarkable. India hails Justice Bhaktvatsala and wants more Judges like him to be elevated to the HC and Supreme court.”
And now on Sep.05, 2012, a prominent prestigious publication, Kafila, started a campaign for removal of the same judge. The content of the petition states: “Justice Bhaktavatsala has shown grave disrespect towards the Indian Constitution, which he is sworn to protect, and which guarantees equal rights to all citizens, men and women. As such, he has revealed himself to be utterly unfit for his high office of responsibility.Sign the petition asking the Chief Justice of India, Hon’ble Mr. Justice S.H. Kapadia, to remove Justice K Bhaktavatsala from his post for these appalling statements.”
Well, all I can now say is that ball lies in the court of people. Right now, I feel happy for adding a new dimension in the creature called writer. And yes, million thanks to my haters!
The Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 has raised a storm in the legal circles and among bodies representing rights of men. The bodies advocating for men’s rights like Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) have lambasted the latest amendment on ground that it promotes misandry in society. Even in legal circles, allowing wife right to oppose the grant of a decree, if she happens to be respondent, on the ground that the dissolution of the marriage will result in grave financial hardship to her but denying the same right to husband is being seen as violation of the principle inherent in Article 14 related with Right to Equality.
In my eyes, the response is just the reverse. I appreciate the amendment and I condemn the media and Men’s Rights Association that they have reacted in immature manner without bothering to having a close look at the Amendment. The Amendment nowhere talks about distribution of husband’s property -an impression generated by SIFF and Indian media. We should learn to appreciate good laws. However, I too have my fears and doubts but they differ hugely from the mainstream media or, for that matter, associations championing the cause of men.
This amendment had became a necessity after Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, and the Special Marriage Act, 1954 were modified to meet the new changes in the society. It was presented in the Parliament last year, keeping in mind suggestions made by the Parliamentary Standing Committee on Personnel, Public Grievances, Law and Justice. It would be quite interesting to know that demand to include “Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage as a Ground of Divorce” came into limelight some three decades ago. That prompted the Law Commission to take note of this issue. It dealt with this issue in its 71st Report titled “The Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 — Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage as a Ground of Divorce” which was submitted in April, 1978, and made this recommendation that “irretrievable breakdown of marriage” should be made a new ground for granting a decree of divorce.
The Bill cites two judgement delivered by Supreme Court which acted as a catalyst: Ms. Jorden Diengdeh vs. S.S. Chopra(AIR 1985 SC 935) and Naveen Kohli vs. Neelu Kohli (AIR 2006 SC 1675). Both theses judgments laid emphasis on bringing suitable changes in Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 so that irretrievable breakdown of marriage could serve as an additional ground for divorce. The Law Commission once again came to the fore when it took suo moto cognizance of the issue, presenting its 217th Report titled ‘Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage —Another Ground for Divorce’ to the government in year 2009.
It can be noticed that Congress governments have been pretty much conscious to introduce laws, which give an upper hand to weaker sex so that it can be seen as champion of women’s rights. It’s very much similar to its approach in the case of minorities, which it tries to woo with anti constitutional measures. The same Congress government miserably failed to protect the sanctity of important Constitutional bodies like Governor of States and Comptroller and Auditor General of India (CAG). After all, how dare CAG came to point out irregularities in the allocation of radio spectrum? No need to talk about role of governors who turned out to be puppets instead of acting as bridge between Centre and States. It also weakened Judiciary by making it in constant conflict with Parliament over its power to interpret the laws in independent manner. The Congress governments in subtle ways have always tried to weaken all the institutions that came to curb its lust for power. Of late, we find that it’s chiefly focused to appease minorities and women. One can easily sense why it’s so? It’s because these two constitute its vote bank. It’s neither bothered about quality of life nor its interested in making the nation on right track. How else can one justify the way it dragged important institutions into controversy- the latest being army row?
Let’s grasp this fact very well that all dubious laws have been framed by Congress government in the name of good intentions. The same laws created with good intentions become so terrible that Supreme Court Court is left with no other option other than to treat the Dowry Act as instrument of legal terrorism. The SC/ST Act is another draconian law that has left deep scars on the societal structure operating in India. The point is if laws are allowed to operate in the flawed system they do not serve the purpose for which they have been created. They become medium to harass and frustrate the right people. The better way to improve the society is not only have good laws but also have a system that makes implementation of the laws in proper way.
Coming to the latest amendment made in Marriage Act, it’s good that government is conscious that divorce petitions if get trapped in the battle of egos hurt the interest of both the parties interested in quick separation. What it fails to recognize that granting only one side to oppose the petition, the wife, would only make the life of husband miserable, who is already reeling under many other flawed laws. It’s highly shocking that despite noticing trend in previous laws – the gross misuse of provisions providing upper hand to women- the government grants women the power to oppose such petitions in the name that ” dissolution of the marriage will result in grave financial hardship”. However, it conveniently forgets that dissolution is equally painful and shocking, emotionally as well as financially, for men community? Why have been they denied the chance to oppose the petition on the same ground ?
It’s not hard to ascertain that government is not ready to accept the new changes that have hit the Indian society. For instance, it is not ready to believe that women are highly aggressive and violent in our times, and, therefore, make necessary changes in Domestic Violence Act. Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty in one of the news items published recently says ” Domestic violence by women is grossly underreported as the law is heavily weighed against men.” It would be interesting to see when is Law Commission going to wake up and take suo moto cognizance of new behavioral patterns in women and make necessary changes in laws related with them? The problem with Law making bodies is that they deal with issues in narrow terms and hence the laws framed often miss the mark. The other point is bit complex in nature. The Women’s Commission in tandem with Women’s Rights activists and NGOs promotes emancipation of women, which has created more room for individualistic traits in women with heightened ego.
It’s really strange that we are creating more grounds of separation and, on the other hand, we are equally conscious that divorce becomes an easy task. Instead of making quality of life better, we are manufacturing new grounds of separation. On top of it, the flawed laws that ignore the abusive nature of women, the painful ignorance about the fact that men can be silent sufferers and the deep rooted prejudices which readily presume men guilty and women a holy cow have only led to collapse of family structure in India. It’s better that we device ways and means to ensure union and smooth relationship than ensuring easy divorce. Anyway, this amendment needs to be welcomed as it , at least, provides the trapped partners a chance to start new lives again than being engaged in endless battle. One hopes that it is not misused by the shrewd wives to manipulate and dictate terms.