The Indian democracy is said to be governed by the will of people. It’s not the entire truth. In reality, it’s governed by chosen contradictions. They make us sad, frustrated and gloomy. This time I would not enter into any sort of complicated analysis. Just presenting two news items side-by-side. That would be suffice to make Indians realize that not all is well with this country. The first news item is related with Saheed Capt. Amit Bhardwaj’s birth anniversary. The second news item is related with murder of a Deputy Superintendent of police, Zia ul Haq in Deoria, in Uttar Pradesh.
By means of contrast I wish to know are our soldiers sacrificing their lives for such rulers who appear to be no better than murderers? And secondly, do our citizens, which include judges and bureaucrats too, have no other option other than to live under shadow of such criminals posing as rulers? Anyway, RIP Kargil Saheed Capt. Amit Bhardwaj/Zia ul Haq. We shall always remain indebted to your glorious sacrifice. And for such rulers, it’s better that they get punished instead of making an attempt to define their worth.
Now the mother of all questions: If that’s the fate of high ranked police officials, how can the judiciary expect a common man to act as whistle blower? Any answers?
Capt. Amit Bhardwaj was leading the reinforcement column of 35 men when they were ambushed en route by Pakistani soldiers armed with light & medium weaponry. With the help of Havildar Rajbir Singh, he decided to divert the attention of the enemy & ordered his Second-in-Command to get the men out of the battle area. The two gallant men were killed, the others survived, though all were wounded. Capt. Bharadwaj saved nearly 30 of his men and killed more than 10 infiltrators, though he himself was hit twice fighting till the last breath. His body lay in deep valley of Himalayas, till it was retrieved on July 13, 1999. The bodies of Captain Bhardwaj and Havildar Singh 57 days later.
“I demand that the Chief Minister come here and resolve this issue. I demand Raja Bhaiya be subject to a police investigation, and the CBI should also intervene. If the CM does not come here I will not bury my husband. He will have to come or I will commit suicide…….He was under a lot of pressure. He was constantly being threatened and didn’t want to stay here. If justice is not served then I will go to Akhilesh Yadav’s house and kill myself,” ( Wife of murdered police officer)
And who is Raja Bhaiyya? A ruling Minister in UP’s present government against whom 48 criminal cases are pending.
“But this is not the first time that Raja Bhaiya is finding himself under scrutiny for death of a policeman. In 2007, DSP Ram Shiromani Pandey, the investigating officer in the POTA case against Raja Bhaiya, died in a road accident on the eve of his approaching the Allahabad high court seeking action against him. Questions were raised, but nothing could be proven and Raja Bhaiya remained as powerful as ever.”
Let me tender my apology, at the very onset, to enlightened readers, especially the female readers. I could have roped in a more reader-friendly title than such a shocking heading. However, any attempts to do so would have defeated the very purpose of writing such a shocking piece. In my eyes, only hypocrites would call it vulgar, and naturally bring in use the trash button. But even if they decide to use the trash button, I would like them to read the article and try to be on the par with the essence of the whole article. The people around us are day and night bombarding the ear drums with such shocking epithets, and we have, apparently, stopped treating them as offending. If that’s the case then I think there is no point in raising hue and cry about article being objectionable and crude. But the sad reality is that it really hurts when one hears such epithet. So what’s the motive? To make it clear that let’s not make abuses part and parcel of routine conversations. It’s, indeed, a very shocking experience if someone hurls it at you all of a sudden, making you taken aback. If we can use better phrases then why we have made abusive language part of our conversations? And if one is not ashamed of using abuses in conversations then I don’t think one should find anything objectionable in reading them onscreen in an article format!
Another reason why I have written this article is that I love to bring darker aspects of life in open. Let’s get realistic and be not ashamed in reading what we have become used to in our daily lives! One laughs loud to bluff it away or pretends that one did not hear it all when such words appear, all of a sudden, in the daily conversations. I don’t think that’s going to bring any qualitative changes in our mannerism!!!
My idea of writing this article first hit the mind some years back when I was in New Delhi. I came to anticipate these modern mantras very often there. Mind you not only the commoners were using but also the high and mighty uttered them proving that power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Even the teenage girls and boys let fly with tirade of abuses on small pretexts. In the evenings, we used to walk around PVR situated close to Jawahar Lal University (JNU). One gentleman there inquired about Photostat shop. On not being able to locate one he bursted out: “Behan Chod Sirf Cigarette Aur Beer Ki Dukan Hi Delhi Mein Hai Kya? Behen Chod Ek Din Sale Sab Marenge.” (These sister-fuckers have opened shops selling beer and cigarettes. I cannot find any Photostat shop.) He was not all wrong. I could see teenage girls and boys smoking and there were beer bottles scattered around all along the path. If you happen to commute by a DTC bus there, I am sure you would be surrounded by nothing else but choicest abuses. “Behen Chod Ticket Nahi Lega Kya” (Sister-fucker! Will you not have the ticket?) Or “Behan Chold Chal Utar Tera Stoppage Aa Gaya Hai”(Sister-fucker! Get off the bus. You have arrived at the destination.) Interestingly, one US citizen, who was traveling with me, could not resist himself from asking me what these words really mean. He opened his small notebook, wherein he seemed to have jotted down these abuses. I gave a smile and told him that these are foul words.
I had similar experiences when I was in Mumbai. A boy hardly in his teens from a well-to-do family was walking waywardly on a busy street .Obviously, he was drunk. He seemed to have a bitter fight with her girl-friend studying in class seventh! “Behen Chod Mere Saath Nahi Chalegi.Kutiya Kahi Ki ! Khud Dus Logo Ke Saath Ghumti Hai Tab Kuch Nahi Jata.” (Sister-fucker! She hates to be my side. Bitch! She had no problems when she moved with so many strangers.)
I don’t know what’s happening in the Western world but it’s quite clear that there too foul words have become integral part of their routine conversation. I would like to quote a certain excerpt from a dialogue, which took place on a prominent site that deals with publication of poems and short stories. I am also one of its prominent contributors. The best thing of this whole conversation is that it has taken place between two best friends, and that too in a lighter vain. Here is the excerpt: “You fucking idiot!! Tread carefully motherfucker, I can find you and I will not be nice, pray to your imaginary friend now asshole. AIDS? What the fuck do you know? You can only get that from people who are infected with the HIV and without a condom, you fucking idiot. Primitive minded mother-fucker. Go swing out of a tree monkey.” (It’s unedited version of the comment.)
Anyway, I must tell what’s happening in India instead of revealing the darker sides of Western world. Today we are hell-bent on improving the face of Indian police. I don’t know when that’s going to take place. I don’t know how many of us have encountered Policwallah (Policeman) speaking in a friendly way. He is one of the most dreaded species on earth. On very small pretexts, you will find him using foul words. They never miss an opportunity to turn you into a caricature. A friend of mine was returning from a late-night party with his sister. A policeman on the beat asked him to stop. The policeman went closer to them and asked,” Where are you roaming with this Laundiya (Girl)? ” You expect something better from a lady police officer. However, even they are also devoid of good mannerism, better words. They too find nothing wrong in using foul words. Look how they dealt with group of innocent girls brought to book for their alleged involvement in prostitution racket: “Kutiya Dhanda Karti Hai Aur Yeha Aakar Drama Kar Rahi Hai.” (These bitches are involved in prostitution and now they are pretending at the police station.)Well, one expects something better from women officials. But they seem to be setting new standards of degradation!! The lives of policemen hover around foul words, and, therefore, there are endless tales related with their intimate bond with abuses. Recently, some eminent sports persons in Varanasi were manhandled and treated roughly by the petty constables with choicest abuses.
Well, I can say that fast-paced life of ours has wrecked our nerves, to an extent that we have no control over our mouths. As a lawyer, when I first entered in the premises of Allahabad High Court, it felt really great. Indeed, it’s a great place. However, I came to notice that almost all the lawyers enjoyed close proximity with foul words. I came to notice that senior lawyers usually handled their juniors very roughly. Being a rebel of some sort, I refused to be part of this chain of events which my friend tell that it’s essential to face such trials and tribulations to turn into a more practical guy. My other colleagues told me that they (read senior lawyers) are reshaping your tendencies in order to overcome rough moments with ease during the proceedings. However, I ignored their advice. But what they said had an element of truth. If you have witnessed proceedings in divorce related cases, you would come to notice that words like “Kutiya” (Bitch) “Chinar” (Loose character women) , “Randi” (Prostitute) fly thick and fast from both the sides right in front of the Honourable Justice!
Looking this issue from a different perspective, I think that’s why women in our villages during marriage ceremony hurl abuses at the groom’s family when they come to have food. Sometimes they are used as tools to create intimacy, to create familiarity. I have heard that abuses hurled by saints are considered to some form of blessing. Even the prominent Hindi writers and poets are not ashamed in hurling choicest abuses whenever possible. That’s why I feel pretty uncomfortable in their company! But that’s something a natural affair for them. Even prominent Muslim writers like Taslima Nasreen(Lajja fame female writer), Ismat Chugtai and Saadat Hasan Manto have frequently used foul words .
But that cannot be used an excuse to provide an exalted position to Gaali (foul word) in our lives. Let’s come to respect the sense and sensibilities of each other. No doubt it’s very hard to rise above foul words during tense moments but we can certainly avoid making them part of our routine conversations. And some day, we will learn to say the unpleasant things in a refined language. There is no dearth of pleasant words in dictionary. Let’s learn to use them to convey both our good and bad feelings. If that’s not possible, let us use them in rarest of rare times.
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Very recently photographs of a completely naked Prince Harry became the hot favourite item searched in the virtual world through the search engines. The celebrity news site, which first revealed its prize possession to the world at large, stated that Prince was involved in game of “strip billiards” at his VIP suite at the Wynn Resort, Las Vegas. It all began when he intercepted some hot chicks at the hotel bar, whom he invited to his VIP suite. The main aim of celebrity news sites is to cash in on crass sensationalism, and so most of us not are really not that prepared to analyze these incidents with seriousness they actually demand. For the average mass these happenings deserve passing attention-one that’s mixed with cheap thrills. The tabloids keep serving such items, at regular intervals, to make average mass kill their boredom.
That’s the impression which is generated in haste to avoid deeper speculation. For instance, just look at the way one section of media tries to portray such issues with touch of dignity. After all, it involves a royal family. Ingrid Seward, royal biographer and editor of Majesty magazine, was quick in offering a suitable defense stating that such acts do not damage the reputation of Royal Family at all.“I don’t think it will damage the Royal Family at all,” Seward said. “He’s the Boris Johnson of the Royal Family.” So the ultimate conclusion that gets pasted on our minds is that temporarily these acts might cause some embarrassment for the oft-spotlighted British Royal Family but all in all such acts are okay in royal circles.
So when such incidents appear in the life of a person belonging to lower echelon of society, such a person be ready to be labeled as a womanizer, a person with loose morals and etc. but when same acts get committed in the higher sections of society, the person still enjoys enough dignity to serve as “the Royal Family’s representative at the closing ceremony of the London Olympics.” In fact, such incidents are great blow to the flawed Victorian ideals once prevalent in this part of the world, which never believed that “sex is about affection, caring and warmth, and is the ultimate expression of love” and indulged in brutal suppression of niceties associated with love-making- a wonderful art form which found brilliant expression in Kamasutra of Vatsyayana.
When a section of western media was pretty busy in providing a touch of honour to the glorious acts of Prince Harry, a section of mainstream western media was baying for the blood of British MP George Galloway for offering defense in the favour of Julian Assange that “having inappropriate sex with a woman while she was asleep is not rape”. He is being severely condemned for expressing that allegations against Julian Assange “don’t constitute rape”.
“Even taken at its worst, if the allegations made by these two women were true, 100% true, and even if a camera in the room captured them, they don’t constitute rape,” he said.
“At least not rape as anyone with any sense can possibly recognise it. And somebody has to say this. Woman ‘A’ met Julian Assange, invited him back to her flat, gave him dinner, went to bed with him, had consensual sex with him, claims that she woke up to him having sex with her again. “
“It might be really bad manners not to have tapped her on the shoulder and said, ‘do you mind if I do it again?’. It might be really sordid and bad sexual etiquette, but whatever else it is, it is not rape or you bankrupt the term rape of all meaning..I don’t believe either of these women, I don’t believe either of these stories.”
Obviously, this was bound to give rise to ferocious reactions on part of various circles representing United States and other important bodies associated with this case, terming Galloway’s observations as “offensive and deeply concerning”. Without going further into this debate whether or not Galloway was right in his observations, it’s interesting to note that anybody who reveals the dark sides of powerful governments becomes a person with a chequered past. Julian Assange is not all wrong when he accuses US government of a witch-hunt against himself and his team. That’s the most standard pattern noticeable in almost all the nations.
The moment an individual or an organisation exposes the misdeeds of powerful governments, the respective governments order their investigative agencies to trap them under various sections of law. Isn’t the same thing taking place in India against Baba Ramdev and Team Anna trying to put the Indian government on mat over issues pertaining to corruption and black money? So it’s hard to believe in the version offered by the United States that WikiLeaks founder is trying hard to divert the attention via “wild” claims.
Interestingly, nobody can understand the whole issue better than me. Very recently, one of my popular websites operating in United Kindom and other nations was blocked in such a manner that’s its now impossible for me to access the site. No suitable explanation was offered. The real reason was to curb the growing influence of this website, which had taken tough stand on sensitive issues not in league with popular sentiments. The same website, not a long time back, received loads of compliments from various quarters but the moment it took a rigid and candid stand on critical issues, it got targeted.
Anyway, it really needs to be analyzed that why people belonging to royal background and the powerful governments remain in good books despite being found involved in corrupt practices, but at the same time individuals and organisations, involved in making world a bit better place for survival, are treated as criminals? For how long this tendency would prevail? Any answers?
रवीश कुमारजी का ये लेख पढने के बाद जो कि राजस्थान पत्रिका में छपा था समझ में ये आया कि ईमानदार आदमियों के लिए ये दुनिया बेगानी होती जा रही है. ना इनकी क़द्र है और ना इनके लिए जगह है. बात यही तक रहती तब भी ठीक था मगर अब ये दुनिया खतरनाक भी हो चली है ईमानदार आदमियों के लिए. शायद कालिख पुते चेहरे में एक साफ़ सुथरा सा चेहरा एक भद्दा सा दाग होता है. ईमानदार आदमी एक गहरा मज़ाक होता है बेईमानो के लिए. सो उसका ना होना ही बेहतर है. सो उसे इतना प्रताड़ित किया जाता है या तो वो विक्षिप्त हो जाता है या उस दुनिया में चला जाता है जो कि बेईमानो के पहुँच से बाहर होती है. हम सब एक साफ़ सुथरा समाज चाहते है पर एक साफ़ सुथरे आदमी से नफरत करते है क्योकि वो सामाजिक लोगो के गणित में फिट नहीं बैठता. एक जुगाडू जनप्रतिनिधि पैसो के दम पे लोकसभा/राज्य के चुनाव में जीत जाता है पर एक ईमानदार प्रतिनिधि पहले तो खड़ा होता नहीं और यदि खड़ा होता भी है तो जमानत जब्त हो जाती है.
ठीक इसी तरह कोई कर्मचारी घोटालो के खिलाफ आवाज नहीं उठता है और यदि उठाता है तो मौत, बदनामी, उपेक्षा, प्रताड़ना इत्यादि के आलावा उसके नसीब में कुछ नहीं है. याद कीजिये उत्तर प्रदेश के स्वास्थ्य विभाग हुए घोटालो में जेल के अन्दर बंद लोग भी मार दिए गए. ठीक इसी तरह एक उच्च पुलिस अधिकारी ने जब आवाज उठाई तो उसे विक्षिप्त करार देकर इलाज के लिए भरती करा दिया. निष्कर्ष साफ़ है. जो गलत में साथ दे वो नार्मल है और जो गलत के खिलाफ आवाज उठाये वो एबनार्मल. लोग तो ये भी कहते है क्या जरुरत थी माफियायो के खिलाफ आवाज उठाने की! मतलब गलत सिस्टम का विरोध मत करिए. इसका हिस्सा बन जाईये!
आइए इस मुद्दे को बेहतर समझने के लिए रवीश कुमार जी का लेख पढ़ते है. और पढ़ के यदि हम थोडा सा भी स्पेस ईमानदार आदमी के लिए बना सके तो समाज थोडा जीने के लायक सा हो चलेगा.
*अकेले पड़ते ईमानदार लोग*
यह हो सकता है कि एस पी महांतेश नाम के अधिकारी के बारे में आपने नहीं सुना हो। कर्नाटक के चीफ जस्टिस के घर के सामने इस अधिकारी की धारदार हथियारों से मार कर हत्या कर दी गई। जब तक यह अधिकारी अस्पताल में ज़िंदगी और मौत से लड़ता रहा कर्नाटक के मुख्यमंत्री जो उसी विभाग के मंत्री हैं देखने तक नहीं गए। महांतेश कर्नाटक के कापरेटिव ऑडिट महानिदेशालय में उपनिदेशक थे। इनके आते ही कर्नाटक में ढेरों कोपरेटिव घोटालों का पर्दाफाश होने लगा। कई बार मारने और डराने की कोशिशों के बाद भी महांतेश का इरादा कमज़ोर नहीं हुआ। लेकिन अब यह अधिकारी हमारे बीच नहीं है क्योंकि हमारे कल के ईमानदार भविष्य के लिए लड़ते हुए मार दिया गया है। मुझे नहीं मालूम कि आप नीमच,शिवपुरी,बंगलोर,कोलकाता,गंगानगर और अलवर में महांतेश के बारे में पढ़ते हुए क्या सोच रहे होंगे। शायद यही कि सिस्टम से कौन लड़े। कोई नहीं लड़ सकता। गनीमत है कि महांतेश ने हमारी तरह नहीं सोचा। हमारी सहानुभूति की भी परवाह नहीं की। अपनी और अपने परिवार की ज़िंदगी दांव पर लगाकर एक के बाद एक घोटाले का पर्दाफाश करते चले गए।
अप्रैल के महीने में दिल्ली में रवींदर बलवानी की हत्या हो गई। पुलिस दुर्घटना बताती रही है। परिवार के लोग हर दूसरे दिन हाथ में बैनर लिये खड़े रहते हैं कि आर टी आई कार्यकर्ता रवींदर बलवानी की हत्या हुई है। उनकी बेटियां समाज और सरकार से गुहार लगाती फिर रही हैं मगर सौ पांच सौ लोगों के अलावा किसी का कलेजा नहीं पिघलता। जुलाई 2010 में गुजरात हाई कोर्ट के करीब आर टी आई कार्यकर्ता अमित जेठवा की गोली मार कर हत्या कर दी गई। ईमानदार अफसरों के सिस्टम से लड़ने और मारे जाने की घटनाएं 2003 में शैलेंद्र दूबे हत्याकांड और 2005 में एस मंजूनाथ हत्याकांड के बाद से मीडिया में जगह तो पा जाती हैं मगर सरकारों पर असर नहीं पड़ता। ईमानदारी का बिगुल बजाने वाले अफसरों को सुरक्षा देने का कानून अटक-लटक कर ही चल रहा है। अगर हम अपने ईमानदार सिपाहियों के प्रति इतने ही सजग होते तो एक मज़बूत कानून बनने में दस साल न लगते।
संसद में व्हिसिल ब्लोअर विधेयक पड़ा हुआ है। इसमें शिकायत करने वाले को सताए जाने के लिए कोई सज़ा नहीं दी गई है। यहां तक कि बिल में सताने यानी उत्पीड़न को भी विस्तार से नहीं बताया गया है। गुमनाम शिकायत को स्वीकार न करने की बात कही गई है और भ्रष्टाचार के खिलाफ बिगुल बजाने वाले को पीड़ित करने वाले अफसरों के लिए दंड की कोई व्याख्या नहीं की गई है। इस कानून की खामियों पर कई बार सार्वजनिक चर्चा हो चुकी है। दरअसल किसी बिगुल बजाने वाले को सुरक्षा देने के लिए कानून का इंतज़ार करना भी ठीक नहीं है। 2004 में ही सुप्रीम कोर्ट ने कहा था कि कानून बनने से पहले भी सुरक्षा का प्रावधना होना चाहिए। इसके बाद भी एस पी महांतेश को कोई सुरक्षा नहीं दी गई।
यह सबक हमने सीखा है शैलेंद्र दूबे और मंजूनाथ की हत्या के बाद। लोगों के भावनात्मक उबाल का फायदा उठाने के लिए सरकारें उस वक्त तो वायदे कर देती हैं मगर जल्दी ही भूल जाती हैं। उन मामलों का भी पता नहीं चलता जिनके बारे में खुलासा करते हुए ये अफसर जान देते हैं। कुछ मामलों में अपराधियों को पकड़ कर सज़ा तो दे दी जाती है मगर बड़ा ओहदेदार पकड़ा नहीं जाता है। क्या आप जानते हैं कि शैलेंद्र दूबे ने स्वर्णिम चतुर्भुज योजना में तीस हज़ार करोड़ रुपये के घोटाले की बात कही थी। क्या आपको पता है कि उन आरोपों का क्या हुआ? कौन लोग थे जिन्होंने तीस हज़ार करोड़ रुपये का घोटाला किया? क्या शैलेंद्र दूबे की मौत का इंसाफ सिर्फ इसी बात से मिल जाता है कि कुछ लोगों को पकड़ा गया और उन्हें आजीवन कैद की सज़ा दिला दी गई। हमारे सिस्टम ने ऐसा क्या किया जिसके चलते किसी शैलेंद्र दूबे को जान जोखिम में डालने की नौबत ही न आए।वही हाल गुजरात के अमित जेठवा मामले की है। खनन माफियों की कारस्तानियों को उजागर करने वाले उनके आरोपों की जांच पर अभी तक कोई फैसला नहीं आया है। शहेला मसूद का मामला कहां अटका है सबको पता है।
इतना ही नहीं हमारा ध्यान ऐसे लड़ाकों पर तभी जाता है जब वो मार दिये जाते हैं। मैं ऐसे कई लोगों को जानता हूं जिन्होंने बैंक से लेकर कापरेटिव तक के बड़े घोटाले ज़ाहिर किये हैं मगर उनके विभाग ने तरह तरह से प्रताड़ित कर मानसिक रूप से विक्षिप्त कर दिया है। आर टी आई ने बिगुल बजाने वालों को हथियार तो दे दिया मगर भ्रष्टाचार के इस जंग में जान बचाने का कोई सेफगार्ड नहीं दिया। जो भ्रष्ट हैं वो बुलेटप्रूफ जैकेट में चल रहे हैं और जो भ्रष्टाचार से लड़ रहे हैं वो दिन दहाड़े मारे जा रहे हैं। दरअसल अब मान लेना चाहिए कि भ्रष्टाचार को लेकर समाज और सियासत का पक्का गठजोड़ है। जब तक इस गठजोड़ को नहीं तोड़ा जाएगा, महांतेश और मंजूनाथ मारे जाते रहेंगे।
ब्हिसिल ब्लोअर यानी बिगुल बजाने वाला, सचमुच सिस्टम से लड़ना किसी जंग के एलान से कम नहीं है। मध्यप्रदेश में ही लोकायुक्त के ज़रिये ढाई सौ करोड़ से अधिक की संपत्ति ज़ब्त हो चुकी है। जिस स्तर के अधिकारी पकड़े गए हैं उससे पता चलता है कि भ्रष्टाचार की लूट में सिस्टम के कौन कौन लोग शामिल हैं। जब नीचे के स्तर पर यह हाल है तो ऊपर के स्तर पर भ्रष्टाचार का क्या हाल होगा। और एक सवाल खुद से कीजिए। क्या आपको पता नहीं कि यह सब हो रहा है। क्या आप अपने सामाजिक जीवन में ऐसे भ्रष्ट लोगों से नहीं मिलते हैं। आपकी सहनशीलता तब क्यों नहीं टूटती जब ऐसे लोग सामने होते हैं। तब आप सवाल क्यों नहीं करते। तभी क्यों करने का ढोंग करते हैं जब एक युवा आईपीएस अफसर नरेंद्र कुमार कुचल कर मार दिया जाता है क्योंकि वो खनन माफियाओं पर लगाम लगाना चाहता था।
दरअसल हम ईमानदारों के इस जंग में ईमानदारी से शामिल नहीं हैं। यह कैसा समय और समाज है कि नरेंद्र कुमार और महांतेश के मार दिये जाने के बाद कहीं कोई प्रतिक्रिया नहीं है। कोई चित्कार नहीं है। राजनीति भी तो इसी समाज से आती है। तभी तो व्हिसिल ब्लोअर्स को सुरक्षा देने वाला विधेयक लोकसभा में पास हो जाने के बाद राज्य सभा में पेश होने का इंतज़ार ही कर रहा है। जल्दी न राजनीति को है न समाज को। हम अपनी पसंद के दल के भ्रष्टाचार से आंखें मूंद लेते हैं और विरोधी दल पर सवाल करते हैं। अपना बचाकर दूसरे का दिखाने से सवाल का जवाब नहीं मिलता। नरेंद्र कुमार और महांतेश का अपराधी कौन है? समाज या सरकार? अगर समाज नहीं है तो उसने सरकार से जवाब मांगने के लिए क्या किया? हम आईपीएल जैसे तमाशे में पैसा देकर भीड़ बन जाते हैं मगर इन अफसरों के लिए सड़कों पर नहीं निकलते। हमारे इसी दोहरेपन की दुधारी तलवार पर ईमानदार अफसरों की गर्दनें कट रही हैं।
I am in love with Radio since childhood. It’s my first love. That’s because it remained above the distortions that hit the silver screen /idiot box with passage of time, providing healthy entertainment, besides keeping me in touch with changes taking place in the world. The other two mediums gave way to skin show but radio kept its virginity intact for long. However, very recently I discovered that it has too given way to vulgarity and obscenity. This time vulgarity entered not through the eyes but through the ears in form of sound waves.
It took me by surprise when I found one of the very young female listeners shrieking out loudly on radio that she enjoys uninterrupted “Sex and the city” and others can also have same quality experience like her if they come to own a particular brand of set top box! It appeared to me that society has really progressed- a belief that did not stay for long. That probably also explains why we have so many late night programmes on radio, often hosted by female presentators with remarkable confidence. That makes me feel pretty awkward within as how come being a male I lack the same confidence? Anyway, the arrival of songs like “ Ooh la la“, “ Chikni Chameli“, ” Bhaag DK Bose” and “ Jalebi Bai“, to name a few, on radio wiped out whatever little respectability radio had so painfully preserved in all these ears.
Anyway, it gave me some sort of satisfaction that bombardment of such songs and programmes is indicative of growing maturity in society- something also in tune with supply and demand theory. I mean I felt when young generation can so boldly discuss and share their experiences on radio, television and online portals I have no reason to assume that times have not really changed, in which people like me owning a great degree of shyness in such matters are like great black patch on clean white plain clothe. Have a look at our teenage days. We had just morning shows at theaters delivering “Gupt Gyana” (secret knowledge), which was rarely watched by guys and gals from decent homes and then there were magazines like “Playboy” which few could afford and some Hindi books- poor versions of foreign magazines. To discuss such matters was considered taboo and television after much consideration started showing late night movies in late 80s, which none watched.
Look at our times. We have helpline numbers that deal with queries related with post marriage worries !! There is growing awareness about sex education, more than need of moral education- to such an extent that talks about moral education seems to be regressive! Well, my eyes were wide opened when some months ago next door young boy,studying in good school and belonging to a good family, asked me ,” Do I own CD of Murder-2 ?” My response in negative made him give me a strange stare and he was virtually annoyed when I asked why he has so much interest in movie having bold scenes-based on theme revolving around extra marital affairs? He smiled and said I am not in sync with recent trends!! I found merit in his response , after all, how come I forgot that all national magazines carry out sex surveys, which has details of intimate moments ? These are easily available low priced magazines which anyone can afford!! Gone are the days when “ Roop tera Mastana” or “ Julie I love you” aesthetically picturized songs, evoked unheard sensations. It’s a different world wherein explicit details in normal conversations are commonplace and sexting has killed all scope for unheard sensations.
The point is do these signs are indicative of the fact that society is on right track after having become comfortable with sex related issues? The answer is a big “No”! Just now I signed a petition that will serve as a memorandum to Commissioner of Police, New Delhi, compelling him to take note of “Gang-rapes, sexual assaults, victim blaming, shameful rape trials” which have terribly hit Delhi/NCR. It reported the highest number of ‘rape’ cases (414) in 2010, leading it to earn dubious distinction of being rape capital of India. The other cities are also not that safe. In Calcutta a woman was raped by five youths when they were offered lift by her in middle of the night. In Gurgaon, a woman pub employee was allegedly gang-raped by six youth in a flat in the city. The sensational rape case of a BPO employee at Dhaula Kuan is still fresh in our memories.
After such incidents males are cursed, viewing rapes in narrow perspective as subordination of females in patriarchal society a way via which males prove their superiority over females. The feminists and intellectuals speak about ways and means to prevent rapes the way this petition talks about like better promotion of ‘women helplines, monitoring through CCTV’s, sexual assault prevention and redressal policy, state and police sensitivity towards women, workplace safety and awareness campaigns. However, the big picture is often ignored. At this point it would be not be out of place to suggest that the United States has the world’s highest rape rate. A country that has high level of transparency in sexual affairs with a great freedom to indulge in sexual experimentation. Let’s also remember it’s a society highly feminist in nature. “1 of 6 U.S. women and 1 of 33 U.S. men have experienced an attempted or completed rape” states one of the reports published several years back.
Let me state that this issue has many complex facet. The same society that proclaims about freedom of sexual preferences and about attainment of maturity has utterly failed to address some of the key questions related with sexuality. The same society also deals with serious issues in biased manner as its more interested in vilification of men community and sharp polarization of society for vested interests. It boasts of sexual freedom but it loves to highlight important issues related with men and women in stereotypical way. That’s one of the greatest paradox in our times. It’s because more women in offices means greater consumption of material goods and so none of the countries including India can dare to ignore demands associated with women as they play a great role in stabilization of nation’s economy.
However, this has led to another problem. The market oriented global society has utilized women’s efficiency not only as qualified labour but also used her sexuality to great extent in selling of the products as well which these women are producing. Nokia sets are made in some remote part of India with the help of over burdened male and female staff and these very phones are launched at glittering ceremony, wherein one notices gorgeous male/female star accompanied by good looking females! Notice how sexuality is also being promoted along with new Nokia set!!
The problem arises here: Youth can buy a Nokia set but how and where will they unleash their sexual energy? That’s why it’s also promoted that we are now a country which allows many sexual preferences, enabling girls to boast “why should boys have all the fun? ” A certain sexual tension is gradually built. Want to buy a soap? Buy one which impresses girls easily or buy one which sexy Katrina Kaif uses over her long legs!! Want to buy a toothpaste? Use one which leads to freshness of breath so that it’s easier to attract kiss of a beautiful girl? If you use certain cream you attain a great glow to attract young girls and if female is using such a cream glow of her face is sure to get her a job!! It’s not enough to see the ball reaching the boundary. See how semi naked cheer girls express their joy when ball races towards boundary! You buy something and the woman cashier at counter, being impressed by the mobile you carry, offers you condom to compensate for lack of change!!
That sort of sexual impressions are being constantly generated. These are false images. But they are powerful enough to shatter into pieces better values. They lead to dangerous conditioning of mind. As a result right people from both the sexes suffer. If you are not allowing healthy release of sexual energy even as the the mind gets hammered with sexual images of all the types will it not lead to perversions of all types? Will it not lead to rapists and sexual offenders? Why are only men being vilified? Why not the system in its entirety being targeted? Will tough laws that seem to punish all the men and laws which view rest of the men as potential rapists serve the purpose? I think these are not preventive measures but methods to end the human society for forever.
Now let’s talk about love as well. The same Indian society which gives the impression that it has evolved to great extent is still comprised of people having more closed mind than people living in stone age. On the one hand, we find one reputed female editor finding extra marital affairs good for keeping marriage lively and, on the other hand, we have societies which hang to death boy and girl for loving each other just because they belonged to different caste. One real love story gives gives rises to many problems in India. Angry parents, shocked relatives, red-faced friends and hostile law authorities all make the life of lovers no less than living hell. No wonder the path of true love is never easy.
It’s quite ironical that casual sex has so many takers if one takes into account growing number of teenage pregnancies or sex at the call centers or growing number of educated girls from good families joining prostitution to earn good money in short time but the same society is not yet ready to embrace the lovers with open arms. That reminds me of middle class morality, which finds its appearance in dramas written by G B Shaw. A stiff resistance often greets lovers, who not only have to face hostile law authorities but also be face-to-face with shrewd moves of deceptive friends and relatives. Deceptive friends? Tell any friend that you are in love with some girl and you are bound to hear anyone passing this great information that she has slept with him too!! A lobby of bad friends gets in action side by side good ones, leading to dominance of half truths. True lovers get above such traps but not all are that great willed and so most love stories end up on tragic note.
So it’s okay to be fake lovers, in which there is display of money but no real emotions. Just the way a new movie get released every Friday, a new girlfriend or boyfriend appears in life of such lovers. It’s okay to be a couple, who have no respect for each other but they are in relationship to keep the society happy or , for that matter, to keep the honour of family intact. Often such couples are involved in serious clashes and some even come to murder their partners. However, the Indian society has place for all such incidents. It treats them as part and parcel of drama called human life. What really baffles is that these same block heads who endorse all ills of societies in name of growth of society are so harsh towards lovers seriously in love with each other!! The custodians of morality still issue death warrants to them all in name of religion, caste, language and status.
Let’s hope that Indian society which is so eager to convey the impression that it has evolved and in tune with better sensibilities makes way for right people, create room for healthy relationships and removes chosen contradictions. At present, it’s in cusp which is neither modern nor ancient. I prefer not to treat it as a society trapped in transition. It’s probably moving away from its core: The core made up of ancient wisdom which treated even insentient objects worthy of admiration.
Look at present age. We are murdering our own kids-only because they fail to fulfill our expectations. We believed that husband and wife are each other’s reflection. Today we find that most of them are living in dead relationship. We treated women as object of worship. Today she is some ‘chikni chameli’ or, if that’s not the case, she is promoting some mobile or deodorant via the charm of her body !! Our wise present age intellectuals call prostitution the oldest profession. They forget that we have produced women who have set high precedents. Let’s not glorify trash even as we come to make way for trash to make the life attain full circle.