प्रेम के शुद्ध स्वरूप को आज के युग में वर्णन करना या उसकी तलाश करना बेमानी सा लगता है। प्रेम कहानियो के नाम पर आज हम को दिल दहला देने वाली दास्ताने मिलती है। जहा प्रेम अपने अगले चरण तक पहुचता है मसलन शादी तक वहा भी वो यथार्थ के कडुवे सागर में विलीन हो जाता है। प्रेम या तो रुपहले परदे पे भला लगता है या तो मुंगेरीलाल की तरह मन के लैंडस्केप पर हसींन लगता है। इसके परे प्रेम एक वीभत्स अफ़साना सा है। जहा तथाकथित प्रेम मिला वहा भी तमाशा हुआ और जहा नहीं मिला वहा भी जिंदगानिया बर्बाद हुई। बहुत साल पहले मुंबई स्टेशन पर एक लड़की को ट्रैन से उतरते ही उसके प्रेमी ने चाक़ू घोप कर हत्या कर दी। इधर बीच कई खतरनाक ट्रेंड उभरे है प्रेमिका को सबक सिखाने के और उनमे से एक है तेज़ाब फ़ेंक देने का। पता नहीं प्रेम का ये कौन सा सिद्धांत है कि प्रेमिका को प्रेम के नाम पे दिल दहला देने वाले तरीको से प्रताड़ित किया जाए !!
भारतीय सरकार ने एक कठोर कदम उठाते हुए इंडियन पेनल कोड में 326 A & 326 B दो नए प्रावधानों को जोड़ा जिसके तहत १० साल या उससे ऊपर तक के सजा की व्यवस्था है। ऐसे हादसों के शिकार लोगो को दो लाख रुपये तक के मुआवज़े का प्रावधान किया जो कि अपर्याप्त सा लगता है। ऐसी घटनाएं ना किसी वर्ग विशेष तक सीमित है और ना ही ये किसी एक देश का मामला है। पाकिस्तान में एक संभ्रांत वर्ग (एलीट क्लास) से ताल्लुक रखने वाली एक महिला को उसके राजनीतिज्ञ पति ने तेज़ाब से इसलिए जला दिया क्योकि उसने तलाक माँगने की जुर्रत की। अब एक ही तरीका बचता है और वो है कि इनसे जुड़े कानूनों का सख्ती से पालन किया जाए, मुआवज़े की राशि बढ़ाई जाए और उसे पेंशन के समान किया जाए ताकि मेडिकल खर्च आसानी से वहन हो सके और ऐसे हादसों के शिकार लोगो को एक बेहतर स्पेस मिले जीवन जीने के लिए।
ये एक मार्मिक कविता पढ़ने को मिली जो पर्याप्त है ये बताने को कि ऐसे हादसों के शिकार लोगो पर क्या गुजरती है ! ये कविता मुझे सोशल मीडिया पे पहले पहल धीरेन्द्र पाण्डेय के मार्फ़त पढ़ने को मिली लेकिन यही कविता एसिड हमलो के प्रति जागरूकता प्रदान करने हेतु बनायी गयी फेसबुक पेज पर भी प्रमुखता से पढ़ने को मिली।
चलो, फेंक दिया
सो फेंक दिया….
अब कसूर भी बता दो मेरा
तुम्हारा इजहार था
मेरा इन्कार था
बस इतनी सी बात पर
फूंक दिया तुमने
गलती शायद मेरी थी
प्यार तुम्हारा देख न सकी
इतना पाक प्यार था
कि उसको मैं समझ ना सकी….
अब अपनी गलती मानती हूँ
क्या अब तुम … अपनाओगे मुझको?
क्या अब अपना … बनाओगे मुझको?
क्या अब … सहलाओगे मेरे चहरे को?
जिन पर अब फफोले हैं
मेरी आंखों में आंखें डालकर देखोगे?
जो अब अन्दर धस चुकी हैं
जिनकी पलकें सारी जल चुकी हैं
चलाओगे अपनी उंगलियाँ मेरे गालों पर?
जिन पर पड़े छालों से अब पानी निकलता है
हाँ, शायद तुम कर लोगे….
तुम्हारा प्यार तो सच्चा है ना?
अच्छा! एक बात तो बताओ
ये ख्याल ‘तेजाब’ का कहाँ से आया?
क्या किसी ने तुम्हें बताया?
या जेहन में तुम्हारे खुद ही आया?
अब कैसा महसूस करते हो तुम मुझे जलाकर?
या पहले से ज्यादा
और भी मर्दाना…???
तुम्हें पता है
सिर्फ मेरा चेहरा जला है
जिस्म अभी पूरा बाकी है
एक सलाह दूँ!
एक तेजाब का तालाब बनवाओ
फिर इसमें मुझसे छलाँग लगवाओ
जब पूरी जल जाऊँगी मैं
फिर शायद तुम्हारा प्यार मुझमें
और गहरा और सच्चा होगा….
एक दुआ है….
अगले जन्म में
मैं तुम्हारी बेटी बनूँ
और मुझे तुम जैसा
आशिक फिर मिले
शायद तुम फिर समझ पाओगे
तुम्हारी इस हरकत से
मुझे और मेरे परिवार को
कितना दर्द सहना पड़ा है।
तुमने मेरा पूरा जीवन
बर्बाद कर दिया है।
Source Attributed To Poem: The Facebook Page Named “Stop Acid Attacks” Informs That This Poem Is Outburst Of Girl Who Became Victim Of Acid Attack!
Law Commission India On Acid Attacks
( First Published In Spring & Summer Edition Of Aavartan, 2014. It’s A Research Journal Published From Gorakhpur, Uttar Pradesh)
India is melting pot of most beautiful philosophies. On one hand we have lofty themes embedded in Advaitic domain, which expand our limited consciousness, and on the other, we have principles related with Kama, explored beautifully in Vatsayana’s Kama Sutra. However, having said that, I must say we have strayed away from these concepts, leading to disturbed living patterns at various level of human existence. Neither we have been able to act as Grihastha (householder) nor able to emerge as a perfect Yogi. At this point, it’s better to stick to distortions that have trespassed into healthy sexual beliefs.
One should not forget that sex is a powerful force, which can even shake the beliefs of yogis lost in deep meditation. The stories of Indra sending Apsaras to distract the sages are quite well known- a fact which mythological TV serials have cashed-in so well! Osho comes to describe the impact of sexual power in his inimitable style. He says, “Ninety percent of our thinking is sexual. Whatsoever you are doing outside, inside sex is a constant concern – you may not even be aware of it. You are sitting in a room and a woman enters: your posture changes suddenly. Your spine is more erect, your breathing changes, your blood pressure is different. You may not be aware at all of what has happened, but your whole body has reacted sexually. You were a different person when the woman was not there; now again you are a different person.”
That’s being the case, it’s really baffling average human being has been taught to remain in denial mode about it. Now that’s not only strange but also a dangerous state of affair. It leads to unhealthy suppression of one of the most basic instincts. Why do we forget that such unhealthy denial would prove suicidal for the greater good of human society? It would only lead to negative manifestation of sexual energies. Worse, self-proclaimed Gurus in field of spirituality have created huge mess by proclaiming that sexual beliefs are obstacle in attainment of realization. Kama has been portrayed as villain. That’s not true. Had it been villain, it would not have attained a dignified position as one of the aims associated with Purusartha (aims considered vital for human existence). The truth is not what these commercial Gurus are preaching. What we need to remember is that sex need to be enjoyed but not at the cost of cherished human values. It needs to be honoured but in a dignified way.
So now we come to an altogether different aspect. We are living in age of technological boom. Sexting is so common, pornographic materials are available at one click and women and men are now being hailed progressive in such matters, but still an enlightened understanding is missing. Mind you, bundle of information cannot ensure a conscious approach. We need a proper mindset, a proper approach to develop a mature understanding in this regard. This “mature understanding” is something which has not made its presence felt. It’s not going to come through titillating advertisement, wherein particular flavour of condom is being preferred. Nor it can be achieved by witnessing gyrating bodies in Bollywood movies. Most of the henious crimes we are witnessing have some sexual misconception as their primary cause. Imagine infants are being raped and even older women are also being raped! Rapes are not only about man exerting his power over woman in wrong way as preached by feminists, but it’s more about sexual miseducation.
Jeremy Seabrook, a prominent British author, expressing his concerns about sexual miseducation rightly states that “if it’s true that silence over sexuality risks blighting lives, it is certain that leaving instructions of the young in sexual matters to the free market is a disaster…..It is clear that new forms of ignorance can be conjured out of the very knowingness which the newly initiated into the secrets of sex they have gained.” If that sort of so-called knowledge about sex is lethal, one could easily imagine that restrictions imposed by society on having access to fulfillment of sexual desires would be cause of greater sorrow. That’s because digital era has made transfer of sexual knowledge and explicit images a very commonplace affair. So if you are not proving it smooth outlet, you are simply creating world of perverts. It’s hard to imagine how can tough laws ensure prevention of sex-related crimes? They can act as deterrent, leading to lesser number of crimes, but they cannot eliminate the desire.
Mahasatvaa Ma Ananda Sarita unfolds this dilemma more succinctly: “Because of the destructive idea propounded by some spiritual traditions, that spiritual fulfillment is only possible if one denies sex, there is a great lack of any kind of intelligent sexual education. And because our species’ survival depends on sex, of course our bodies make it a priority.” The message is loud and clear: Make room for sex in intelligent way. It’s better to channelize our sexual desires in conscious way, but, at the same time, not forsaking principles related with honourable life.
Ironically, in another arena, the law commission, the courts and law enforcing agencies do not see sex related crimes in wider aspect. They treat it as a sexual offence wherein a man is a “dangerous criminal” and woman the “most helpless victim”. Rape in my eyes is representative of the collective failure of the society! Rape is seen as one of the most heinous crimes, and, indeed, it should be the case. However, does that ensure one accused of such a crime be treated in barbaric manners. In a nation which cares damn about prison reforms, one can imagine that those found guilty of sexual crimes or under-trials are treated in most miserable way. They also conveniently forget that when laws were framed the situations were quite different. The attitude of women was not brazen as it has now become and when one says one is not suggesting that a woman’s modesty needs to be outraged simply because she dared to display bizarre traits. It’s being suggested to merely show the changes that have occurred with the passage of time, wherein vulnerability has increased due to many complex developments which until now were quite unknown to Indian society. Earlier, there was lesser generation of porn movies but now in USA almost 211 porn movies are being made in every week. Needless to state, the Asian countries offer great market. The point which I wish to prove is that in given scenario the way we look at sex and sex related crimes needs to change.
Sadly, the Indian landscape is marred by contradictions in this regard. It’s open to Reebok shoes, Ray Ban sunglasses and Wrangler Jeans, but it tries hard to ignore the impact of permissiveness, and licentiousness too, these items have unleashed. Why there is so much ambiguity when it comes to having a candid opinion regarding the worth of sex in Indian society? It’s high time we have a proper mindset and clinical approach to deal with sex related crimes. Let’s not treat one guilty of sexual crime merely as “sick pervert” and treated to legal process in most cruel fashion, but subject him to greater reforms which help him emerge as good human being. We have borrowed from West so many lesser aspects, but failed to borrow their methodological approach encircling complex issues. One cannot emerge as good human being by merely highlighting on one’s T-shirt “Being Human” message. One need to go beyond such cosmetic gestures.
It’s not merely enough that sex education gets introduced. There has to be a greater space for assimilation of sexual beliefs besides channelization of sexual desires. After all, celibacy is abnormal and outdated in both progressive and orthodox societies! For progressive thinkers it’s akin to introduction of Hindutva! Against this backdrop, the only path that remains is to provide space to unleash sexual desires. Is Indian society really prepared for that? However, the harsh truth is that it has no other way left. So let’s have proper sex education; introduce state-of-the-art sex clinics in villages and smaller cities to deal with sexual disorders/sex related diseases, and, above all, improvise the legal mechanism to deal with sex related crimes. It’s still marred by archaic methods. It’s never too late to give way to better ways, ideas and beliefs. Let’s accept the new changes in a wise way before the damage becomes irreparable!
Spring and Summer Edition In PDF format:
Jeremy Seabrook: Article Titled “Sexual Miseducation”
Mahasatvaa Ma Ananda Sarita: Paradigm Shift; Nov-Dec.2010
मुझे सत्यमेव जयते कार्यक्रम के फॉर्मेट से बेहद आपत्ति है. इस तरह के कार्यक्रम जटिल समस्यायों को सिर्फ समोसा -चटनी के सामान चटपटा बनाकर पेश करने का माध्यम बन गए है. इस से गम्भीर समस्या के और जटिल संस्करण उभर के आते है. आमिर टाइप के कलाकारो का क्या नुक्सान हुआ? कुछ नहीं: महँगी फीस बटोरो और तथाकथित जागरूक इंसान का अपने ऊपर ठप्पा लगवाकर चलते बनो और जा पहुचो देश की फिक्र करने किसी कोक-शोक की दूकान पर. ठेस और चोट उनको पहुचती है जिनकी संवेदनशीलता का भद्दा मजाक बनाकर इस तरह के कार्यक्रम सफलता के पायदान चढ़ते है. आमिर टाइप के लोग कलाकारी अगर बड़े परदे पर करे वही उनको शोभा देता है. गम्भीरता का पुतला बनने की कोशिश छोड़ दे. कम से कम आमिर टाइप के कलाकार ये कोशिश ना ही करे तो बेहतर होगा.
संवेदनशील मुद्दो की या देश की फिक्र करने के लिए इस देश में वास्तविक गम्भीर दिमागो की कोई कमी नहीं. फिर ये समझ से परे है कि दूरदर्शन जैसे सम्मानित सरकारी माध्यम क्यों इस तरह के सतही लोगो को गम्भीर मुद्दो पर विचार विमर्श करने के लिए बुलवाते है? एक बात और समझना बेहद जरूरी है: क्या गम्भीर समस्याओ को ग्लैमरस रूप देना जरूरी है? क्या यही एक सार्थक तरीका बचा है गम्भीर मुद्दो के साथ न्याय करने का? कुल मिला कर इस बात को महसूस करना बेहद जरूरी है कि अगर आप वाकई देश की फिक्र करते है तो उनका सम्मान करे जो सम्मान के योग्य है. इनको बुलाये और ये आपको बताएँगे कि किसी संवेदनशील मुद्दे पर क्या रूख रखना चाहिए. और अगर सही लोगो को बुलाकर चीज़ो को सही सन्दर्भ में समझने का धैर्य नहीं है तो कम से कम आमिर जैसे लोगो को बुलाकर गम्भीरता का मज़ाक ना बनवाये. इतना तो किया जा सकता है कि नहीं?
The complex issue of Devyani Khobragade has come as a boon for ruling party in India on the verge of facing one of the worse defeats in upcoming Parliamentary Elections in 2014. It has allowed its leaders, who have lost their sheen, to talk big about saving the pride of nation, forgetting that most of them enjoy a chequered past! Its most of the leaders, who have been relegated to the background, have now emerged on the surface, speaking aloud about attributes which they rarely displayed both in public and personal lives. Consider the manner in which the Lokpal Bill got passed after the government was left with no other option but to take cognizance of growing unrest over this issue in nation!
The Indian leaders, especially from the ruling party, definitely lack the moral right to make shrill cry about violation of standard provisions in case of Devyani Khobragade. It’s quite evident from a deeper analysis of issue at hand that facts have been blown out of proportion. Like always the issue has been given a larger-than-life colouring, making it look like some shrewd diversionary tactics on the part of hidden players behind the curtain.
Devyani Khobragade is no child that she could not apprehend the consequences of misrepresentation of facts on visa application of the domestic help Sangeeta Richard. How come she is so much aware of “Vienna conventions” but pretty unaware about the violation of domestic laws of U.S. even as there were reported incidents of atrocities committed upon domestic help in the past by other Indian diplomats in the same country? Being an Indian diplomat she should have set high precedents instead of giving impression of being a “victim” in the aftermath of strict actions on part of U.S. authorities.
Let’s be very clear that it’s not the case of making mockery of sovereignty of India but it’s more the case of playing with the fire. Devyani conveniently forgot that she was living in United States and not in India where even a petty “Sarkari Babu” (government official) can use his power to thwart the investigation on being caught.
The urgency exhibited and absurd statements on part of Congress Ministers make them laughing stock in the eyes of all conscious people, who believe in the rule of law. The paid mainstream media might give the impression that knee jerk reactions on part of Indian counterparts back in India are “bold measures” and fitting response to United States, but it would never diminish the ugly truth that she is guilty. The moves on part of U.S. sound more appropriate when Preet Bharara makes it clear that “This office’s sole motivation in this case, as in all cases, is to uphold the rule of law, protect victims, and hold accountable anyone who breaks the law — no matter what their societal status and no matter how powerful, rich or connected they are.”
All those who are talking aloud about diplomatic immunity granted to Indian officials posted at consular office surely needs to answer questions posed by this U.S. prosecutor: “One wonders whether any government would not take action regarding false documents being submitted to it in order to bring immigrants into the country. One wonders even more pointedly whether any government would not take action regarding that alleged conduct where the purpose of the scheme was to unfairly treat a domestic worker in ways that violate the law. And one wonders why there is so much outrage about the alleged treatment of the Indian national accused of perpetrating these acts, but precious little outrage about the alleged treatment of the Indian victim and her spouse?”
Yes, it’s disturbing that mainstream media pressure and chaotic voices within the government have made it a “diplomatic row” when it’s nothing more than criminal action committed by a responsible Indian officer. However, let’s view critically the actions taken on part of U.S. The WikiLeaks have proven beyond doubt that American leaders are no saints. The U.S. might give the impression that dealing fairly with violation of human rights is always their topmost priority but when their own men get trapped it takes recourse to most shrewd measures to save them.
Or, for that matter, it can go to any extent to get its job done, even if it means sabotaging the sovereignty of other nations. It’s no secret that documents and evidences were forged to justify their attack on Iraq. The drone attacks in various parts of Pakistan make it clear that borders become meaningless in face of its interests, and so death of innocent civilians means nothing! The controversial release of Ramyond Davis, C.I.A contractor guilty of double murder in Pakistan, speaks volume about subtle pressure employed by American leaders.
The U.S. claims it’s very much in pain over episodes of violation of human rights but see the treatment meted out to prisoners at Guantanamo Bay! So it’s evident that rich and powerful nations have dual standards and the U.S. is no exception. It’s not at all wrong to presume that it used its domestic laws to enter in barbaric behaviour which many in India see it as an assault on the pride of India and modesty of a woman.
India needs to learn few lessons from this episode instead of entering in retaliatory actions. Before I come to that point let me state that introduction of gender-neutral laws in India or need of tough measures to punish abusive women always lead to raised eyebrows.The so-called messiahs of women’s rights start making noise in India. The U.S. has perfectly demonstrated that laws are equal for men and women and, therefore, women cannot claim special privileges or concession.
In India despite the leap of so many centuries woman is still inherently seen as a weak specie, a saintly figure, who can first commit no crime and even if she commits crimes she needs to be given special treatment! It’s an impression that’s even supported by foreign based agencies, working for the rights of women in India but the same agencies would remain silent about inhuman behaviour done with Devyani just because it happened in U.S.!
Anyway, India needs to demonstrate its own strength not in reactionary way but in a more mature way. It needs to take away all the special privileges and concessions it offers to U.S. citizen in extraordinary way. Very recently a Visa Officer in India was transferred because she had refused to grant visa to a gay American diplomat on the ground that such marriages are not legal in India. The Indian government instead of supporting her argument, transferred her to a lesser department.
In the light of recent Supreme Court judgement, which has upheld the validity of section 377, one needs to follow the words of former Finance Minister of India, Yashwant Sinha, to let United States become aware of consequences if other nations also become strict in implementing their domestic laws.”My suggestion to the Government of India is, the media has reported that we have issued visas to a number of US diplomats’ companions. ‘Companions’ means that they are of the same sex. Now, after the Supreme Court ruling, it is completely illegal in our country. Just as paying less wages was illegal in the US. So, why doesn’t the government of India go ahead and arrest all of them? Put them behind bars, prosecute them in this country and punish them.” (Yashwant Sinha).
Sometimes back there was controversy about alleged permission granted to American sniffer dogs to enter Rajghat as a part of the security drill before the visit of U.S. President George Bush. In future this sort of “desecration” could be avoided since it’s not permissible as per our own rules. It’s time for India to exhibit that it has a backbone, instead of entering in knee-jerk reactions. That can be perfectly demonstrated by pursuing its own interests in a rigid way without granting extraordinary privileges to outsiders, being least influenced by their nationality and position.
Pic Two Is From Internet
It’s a matter of great satisfaction that prominent publications related with mainstream media have begun to embrace issues related with men in a fair way. The various bodies working for the cause of men across the nation have decided to ferociously protest against the recent amendments made in Hindu Marriage Laws which are not only anti-male but also do not augur well for the cause of society. I must appreciate The Times of India and its correspondents some of them whom I know personally quite well for being sympathetic towards issues sensitive in nature. The complicated issues cannot be dealt with in a proper way unless we know both the sides of story and this type of fair reporting allows us to be more informed about aspects which remain neglected owing to lack of dissemination. Right now some of the well known Men’s associations based in Bangalore, Pune, Nagpur and elsewhere are working hard to create awareness regarding misuse of laws, which they call legal terrorism. The activists right now are engaged in having dialogue with Members of Parliament with a hope to apprise them of with concerns of Men’s Associations. I am sure the day is not far when gender-neutral laws would get introduced to provide a better shape to Indian society now on the verge of disarray due to blatant misuse of power by the feminists, enjoying support of negative powers operating within the nation and in foreign lands.